The girl dances on a Friday night. She loves dancing, and she looks so free and happy when she does.
Tonight she came home hungry. Not unusual as she is always hungry, but she didn’t know what she wanted to eat. The problem is is that she only eats about four things and she didn’t want any of those.
Weetbix with Vegemite? No
All options exhausted then. Cue tears….
I put one option on the table – the one she hadn’t finished from before she left for dancing – and told her to go sit down at the table. Once she saw what it was she started crying that she didn’t want it, but couldn’t tell me what she did want. I said that if she didn’t want to eat then she should have a bath and go to bed, as she was obviously tired.
Apparently eyes hanging out of head and tears doesn’t mean you are tired! Just so you know…
I lost it at the point and said it wasn’t a restaurant and she was out of options. Cue more tears and collapsing on the ground this time.
I left her to it and went into another room to cool down.
A few minutes later she stormed past us to go to her room, where she proceeded to collapse on her bed this time, conveniently bypassing the bathroom and ignoring the fact that I’d told her to have a bath if she wasn’t going to eat.
After physically dragging her off the bed and into the bathroom, I then had to undress her, which is quite difficult when she is trying to put her clothes back on at the same time. I picked her up and dumped her in the bath (so so glad she is little!) and walked away… after saying that if she was not careful she would have to go and live with another family because I can’t look after her anymore.
Five minutes later she is calling me from the bath.
‘Now I’m worried that you are going to get rid of me’.
After reassuring her that I didn’t mean it and I was just frustrated by her behaviour, she got out of the bath.
And proceeded to get upset about everything else that was going on in her world. Like her body hurting everywhere, and her knee hurts as well, and the German Teacher at school is convinced that all kids with Aspergers are going to try to run away like a girl did in Prep who has it, but don’t ask her how she knows this because she can’t tell me. And she doesn’t want the German Teacher to know she has it because she will tell even more people about it, like her best friend in Year 4 did after promising to keep it a secret then telling everyone who then proceeded to laugh and point at her. And there is a mean girl in the Softball Team at school who keeps picking on her but she is in the Year below her and she only knows her first name but she is really mean to her and she is really missing her computer game and when can you get a new computer so I can play it and it’s not fair….and can I have some Tuna please?
This was all told to me in about two minutes flat, such was the speed of her talking.
I know that she holds everything in until she feels she is safe enough to tell us and then she erupts, but we have to go through the meltdown to get to what is upsetting her.
Hurts my head and now I need a drink. And chocolate. Or both….